Attachment

"Siguradong masaya kapag tumira tayo sa iisang flat, yung close na lahat, yung magkakakilala na talaga."

A wishful thinking was uttered to me by a friend, while we're swimming. So many thoughts have entered in my mind. I pushed them at the exit door but still, being me as a very opinionated person, I said

"Mahirap yun, lalo na kung na-attach na kayo sa isa't-isa."

"Ayan na naman yang attachment na yan, narinig ko na naman," he immediately responded. I thought that the night was not enough to discuss everything about attachment. The topic will offspring a lot of words from experiences, ideas and friendship.

Then earlier, I've read a Facebook status message of a very close friend that says

Never get too attached to anyone.. because attachments leads to expectations and expectations leads to disappointments.

I would day, this is mostly applicable to romantic relationships. Mostly, to those pairs who are just starting. Just right at the beginning, even without a person involved, we already set standards and those have defined what should be the other person doing in order for you to get attached after the attraction. I find it easy to explain the norms of dating.

How about for friendship? Have you expected a lot from a friend that you become so disappointed that he failed to be consistent? There are things that a human being can do. I just find it unjust why we focus on the things that he couldn't do or couldn't undo. I have declared myself guilty of these things in the past, but I also forced my heart to forgive and see the best in all the memories they gave me. Still, I encountered many humps on the road. I was passing through a very dark alley and finally I let go.

I wanna erase all those things that are very unhealthy for my emotions and to my spirituality. There's maybe something wrong with me but still, I have some people who have open ears and heart to digest all those bits and pieces.

Attachment isn't bad after all. God has placed people in your life for a reason.

Some are passersby....

Some will stay for a while...

Some will teach you a valuable lesson....

Some will stay forever....

I am thankful indeed!

In all life's mess, sometimes, all you need to do is open your ears for you to hear that people understands you. The mouth is a useful tool, but also the most sinful.