Tanjong Beach Club

Noong nakita ko yung mga pictures ng dati kong office-mate sa facebook na nasa beach and the location posted is Singapore, tinignan ko kaagad kung saan ito. I've never been to any man-made beaches dito sa Singapura. Dati kasi, nung nag-OJT yung kapatid ko dito at nagpost ng mga pictures, andumi ng beach. Being called, man-made beach, hindi nako nagka-interes agad. Pero naging matunog recently yung Tanjong Beach Club and bigla akong na-curious. So tinuweet ko na gusto kong pumunta minsan at makiparty. Ayun, may nagreply naman. Malamang natuloy kami kasi eto ang mga pictures. 

Salamat pala kay Millionmonks sa Mojito at kay Saints sa Sunblock. Kahit umulan nung bandang huli, umitim naman kami and nag-enjoy. #roadtohotness ang drama pero sa susunod, mga pandesal na ang nasa litrato. :)

Attachment

"Siguradong masaya kapag tumira tayo sa iisang flat, yung close na lahat, yung magkakakilala na talaga."

A wishful thinking was uttered to me by a friend, while we're swimming. So many thoughts have entered in my mind. I pushed them at the exit door but still, being me as a very opinionated person, I said

"Mahirap yun, lalo na kung na-attach na kayo sa isa't-isa."

"Ayan na naman yang attachment na yan, narinig ko na naman," he immediately responded. I thought that the night was not enough to discuss everything about attachment. The topic will offspring a lot of words from experiences, ideas and friendship.

Then earlier, I've read a Facebook status message of a very close friend that says

Never get too attached to anyone.. because attachments leads to expectations and expectations leads to disappointments.

I would day, this is mostly applicable to romantic relationships. Mostly, to those pairs who are just starting. Just right at the beginning, even without a person involved, we already set standards and those have defined what should be the other person doing in order for you to get attached after the attraction. I find it easy to explain the norms of dating.

How about for friendship? Have you expected a lot from a friend that you become so disappointed that he failed to be consistent? There are things that a human being can do. I just find it unjust why we focus on the things that he couldn't do or couldn't undo. I have declared myself guilty of these things in the past, but I also forced my heart to forgive and see the best in all the memories they gave me. Still, I encountered many humps on the road. I was passing through a very dark alley and finally I let go.

I wanna erase all those things that are very unhealthy for my emotions and to my spirituality. There's maybe something wrong with me but still, I have some people who have open ears and heart to digest all those bits and pieces.

Attachment isn't bad after all. God has placed people in your life for a reason.

Some are passersby....

Some will stay for a while...

Some will teach you a valuable lesson....

Some will stay forever....

I am thankful indeed!

In all life's mess, sometimes, all you need to do is open your ears for you to hear that people understands you. The mouth is a useful tool, but also the most sinful.

Uso

Noong kabataan ko, wala naman akong alam sa mga pre-nuptial photo shoot. Ang ibig kong sabihin, wala naman ito dati. Ngayon, nauso na. Kung kailan daw mahirap na ang buhay ng mga tao, andami daming mga USO na nagiging requirements na din sa kasalukuyang panahon. At dahil sa wala akong mai-blog, i-share ko na lang yung una kong prenuptial shoot na pang amateur. Kasal na ngayon ang dalawang ito. Congratulations nga pala!

Uso na ang prenup shoot. Kanya-kanyang bonggang mga tema kung saan dapat kukunan ang mga litrato. Mas wacky at creative, mas astig! Ang mga larawang ito ay kinunan sa Singapore Botanical Garden.

Uso na din ngayon yung dapat may ambag na din ang babae sa gastos sa kasal. Dati kasi, yung lalaki lang ang gumagastos. Hindi naman uso ang Dowry sa kultura naten. Pero sa tingin ko, mas sweet kung lalaki ang gagastos lahat. 

Uso na din yung mag-uupload kayo ng video sa youtube mala MTV style at doon niyo ipapakita kung gaano kayo ka-sweet at kung gaano kagastos ang kasal niyo. Hindi lang classic wedding songs ang pwede maging Theme Song kundi contemporary na din. Hindi na uso ang VHS at sa video, wala ka ng makikitang pagkalaki-laking mga ilaw na tinatapat sa mga mukha ng tao.

Uso na din ang hiwalayan. Matapos gumastos sa kasal at sumumpa sa harap ng altar na magmamahalan habang buhay. Tila, wala ng halaga sa kasalukuyang henerasyon ang "relationship." Kapag nasasaktan na ang isa, kailangan ng makipaghiwalay agad. Walang diborsiyo sa Pilipinas pero panay naman ang annulment. Madalas, gagastusan talaga nila ito, mawalan lang ng bisa sa batas ang kasal nila. 

"People invest more on weddings rather than in Marriage."